So, I've decided to write up something I thought about while lying here about the movie myself and fuckdoll saw yesterday: "Surrogates", starring the hard to be killed, Bruce Willis.
Great movie, first off. The storyline (which I can cover without ruining the plot to the whole thing) is that something like 98% of the world's population stays physically at home and sits in a chair with sensors and such. This allows them to send out a robot version of themselves into the real world. This is marketed in the movie as a way to stay 100% safe as, even if you are ass-raped by a rabid gorilla, you remain safe at home.
All this causes an interesting side effect - no one gives a shit about another person's safety. The "people" you see out and about are disposable. And this is what I want to talk about with the real world as we know it today, along with the bizarre contradictions people still hold dear.
There's a scene in the movie (without giving anything away) where there's a massive room with the sensor chair things, and soldiers are in each one. Then it cuts to the actual war where blank faced soldiers are fighting, one gets killed and the real soldier back at the base just logs into another robot and carries on fighting. It was this that made me compare it to the current world as we know it. For example, I find it hard to identify with people I don't know - most likely from my childhood where I was kept away from social situations (no Freudian assessments, please!).
But a lot of the world are like this as well. I mean, you can run a few google searches and find internet videos of people being killed by all manner of means. There's porn where girls take on 50 or 60 guys one after the other. Videos of soldiers taking out insurgents with an arsenal of weaponry. Its reduced the population's sensitivity to harm to others in much the same way the movie depicted. We don't care about others, as a general rule.
But, and here's the contradiction, if myself and fuckdoll where to "come out" and say we both enjoy it when I slap her hard across the face, or use a choke hold to make her pass out, or poking her clit with needles, society would be in shock.
How is it that we can all be more focussed in catching a view of the carnage and gore as we pass a car crash, but two consenting adults that enjoy SM makes us recoil in horror? Bizarre, isn't it?
Myself and fuckdoll have been together (in a form) for over a year now, and we have been through more than a regular couple might face in five times that amount of time. I truly know that she trusts me with her life - she hands that control to me regularly - and I would never do anything to put her in danger. I know 110% that I would trust he with my life for the same reason.
But, if I tried to explain to our "vanilla" friends the things we do, most of them would see me as evil, and probably see fuckdoll as a beaten "wife" who needs help. If only she could see that.. Etc etc.
I can (I hope) safely assume that, as you are reading this blog, you are able to separate abuse from SM. But, I still find society's general consensus to disposable people, yet horror at certain consentual activities quite odd.
Now, if you don't mind, I'm going to cuddle my little fuckdoll and try and get some more sleep.
Have a good day everyone, and check out that movie. Its a good one.
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I agree with all of this. I myself am a slave and I've come from a mother who suffered physical and emotional abuse , I grew up in a home where my father beat my mother before me constantly and Once I found SM, like most people i thought it was another form of abuse. But soon after trying it , I found that although most people would think its abusive and evil and even though there is a thin line between SM and real abuse. I've found it comes down to one element that is or at least should be the main component in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteTrust.
My master isn't the type of person that hits women , in fact he's one of the few men I know that respects women. Now yes he does smack me and choke me (just like you do with your fuck doll). But I think those of us who understand the relationship between Master and Slave know when smacking is abuse and when smacking and choking is just a form of arousal. I trust my master and would give my life to him if he asked , so when he smacks me and chokes me I know he doesn't do it to hurt me in anyway that is abusive. He knows my limits and he has limits for himself as well. In the end it all comes down to what You believe to be good and evil , what you believe is abusive and what is just another form of love... People who never get to experience what we do daily are at a loss , they will never understand human connection.
And I for one...am saddened by it.
Take Care
- A faithful reader